Time is meant to be enjoyed in the present, but most of us who live a “high performance” lifestyle are either behind trying to catch up or ahead of ourselves trying to create something for the future. We have the daily grind of work activities, travel, and deadlines, kids’ school programs and sports schedules, events with family and friends, and don’t forget whatever is left for ourselves. It is rare that we’re able to rest in the present and feel at peace in handling all of our many demands and responsibilities.
I recommend ONE Rule of “Time Management” that enables you to relax and be present now and not just on holidays, summer nights or weekends, and vacations (if you take them).
In the time you have…
Do more of what you like and less of what you don’t like.
Yes I know, it’s just as profound as the equation for weight loss, right? Eat less, exercise more. Seriously though, it’s the same concept. Here are 3 things you can do immediately to enjoy more of your time being present and actually getting more done effortlessly, with ease, and enjoyment.
1. Stop managing time and manage you?
The sun will rise and set regardless of what you do or don’t do on any given day. “Time Management” is our way of feeling accomplished, significant, and/or in control. It is an illusion so let it go and focus on managing YOU. The first step is to get real with yourself about what you do because you “have to” (this is a very small number of things) and what you do because you will “look bad if you don’t”. Tell the truth, you do not need to make your child’s class cupcakes from scratch for every
2. Say “I don’t want to”
If you don’t like something or don’t want to do it…say so and free yourself up! I’m not talking about the whiny “I don’t wanna”, I’m talking about the real authentic “I do not want to do this”. Tell the truth about what these things are and then take action. Find options to get that project at work reassigned or say no. That’s right – say “no” when you’re asked. Doing something you don’t want to do is more of a risk than saying no in the first place. No matter how hard you try, how many deadlines you set, or how many alerts you set in your calendar being inauthentic about doing something you don’t like or don’t want to do drains your energy and people can see it from a mile away. Don’t get me wrong, there are certainly people who would create a life or death situation by saying no but that’s not most of us. Many of us have a schedule full of things we don’t want to do and if we said “no” our boss, employees, children, etc. would surely be fine.
3. List what you love and lock it in!
This one is straightforward. Chances are if it’s not scheduled it doesn’t exist. Block your calendar with things that you love and make them recurring appointments. Start with 3 items each week and keep building. Doing what you love increases your energy and capacity. Before you know it your days will
Be well and Live Intentionally!